Neely Steinberg TWIDY fans know all about heart break – it’s time they heard from a relationship expert to guide them through the pain!

Neely Steinberg is one half of the dynamic duo that make up Nic and Neely’s Dating Marketplace, a talk show covering all things related to dating, love, sex, and relationships.  TWIDY asked her five burning relationship questions:

1) How has being in a relationship changed over the last 10 years?
I think social media has changed the name of the game a lot – relationships are harder to start and harder to maintain because of social networking sites. We are also living in a world of instant gratification, and dating ADD is rampant as a result. That’s certainly why something like online dating can be tricky – it’s the paradox of choice. You have so many options at your fingertips. Sometimes it can be hard to focus on just one person, and then you end up with nobody.

I think it can be easy in today’s day and age to fall into that trap of always looking for someone better, someone cuter, someone smarter with whom to be in a relationship, without even doing an honest self-evaluation (how smart are you? how attractive are you? etc.).

Lastly, I think the internet in general has definitely made it easier to stray from relationships. If you’re having problems with your partner, it’s a hell of a lot easier to start chatting it up with someone online instead of focusing on fixing your relationship. So that ADD mentality can extend to relationships as well. But a good thing is that people are waiting a bit longer to settle down, and I think that can be very helpful for self-growth. The divorce rate is a lot lower for couples who marry after 30.

2) What’s the biggest mistake people make in relationships?
Having ridiculously high expectations of one another.  And trying to change your partner.

3) Who is your favorite celebrity couple right now?

Justin Beiber and Selena Gomez. Kidding. Hmmm…I kind of like Reese Witherspoon and her new hubby.  Reese seems like she’s got a good head on her shoulders, and a positive and realistic approach to relationships. I just saw pictures of the two of them in some gossip magazine and they appear to be adorably happy. Then again, like most celebrity couples who look/seem so happy, they could break up a year from now.

Try never to look at other people’s relationships at face value (because then you start comparing, and that is the kiss of death). There’s often stuff going on behind the scenes, and certainly the happy celebrity couples who claim to be sooooo in love and perfect for one another are the biggest offenders of this.

4) What is important to ensure a strong, healthy relationship?

Open and constant communication (about all subjects, no matter how awkward). Putting the other first whenever possible. Don’t get lazy in your relationship (don’t fall into complacency). And knowing you are with someone who allows you to be you.

5) Has Facebook started more relationships than it has ended?

I’m afraid you’ll have to ask Zuckerberg about this one. I’m sure he’s got stats somewhere. :)