Love is patient, love is k… ok what the f@$% is this.

Good morning, you’re welcome.

OK Cupid Enemies. Is. Awesome.


When your ex goes social…

Happy Wednesday!

We found this gem on Pinterest this morning. After some digging, it appears the creator made the board as a tribute to her current boyfriend’s ex, noting how crazy & stalky said ex is. She fails to note the inherent craziness of building a board like this in the first place, but let’s not split hairs.

Some social love, courtesy of Pinner JenN

If anyone has access to the court documents, we’re all ears.


Ask An Expert – Thomas Edwards, The Professional Wingman

In an effort to get you guys in relationships, knowing you’ll end up back here anyway, here’s our latest installment of Ask an Expert! Today’s expert is Thomas Edwards, CEO of The Professional Wingman, a dating company helping individuals enhance their dating, social and professional lives through development and lifestyle strategy.

1) What is the biggest mistake guys and girls make in trying to meet someone?

Both sexes have problems with fear. For example, once they see a person they are attracted to, they freeze. The biggest mistake people make is not taking that first step, whether it’s walking over and introducing yourself (if you’re a guy), or making eye contact and smiling (if you’re a woman).

2) What’s the most important thing to look for in a wingman?

It’s most important that a wingman be quick on his feet. Sometimes you and/or your buddy can be put into a situation unexpectedly and it’s going to be your responsibility to make the best of the situation for both of you. Someone who can adapt to any situation nearly guarantees you’ll have a good night.

3) What keeps a modern relationship strong?

Independence and variety are key factors. Having a lifestyle outside of the relationship, will keep you whole. Variety can be created by changing up routine, like communication style, date activities and sexual pleasure.

4) How has the internet changed the role of the wingman over the past few years? Has it made things easier or more difficult for you?

I believe a wingman can do so much more with the internet — if you know what you’re doing. We are more transparent and exposed than ever before thanks to the internet so our responsibilities as a wingman have evolved. People now care about your social circle and it’s a direct reflection of you.

5) What’s the worst pick up line you’ve ever heard?

A guy went up to a woman with a notepad and told her he was conducting a survey on attractive women dating average guys. She had a good laugh — whether it was at him or with him is still unknown — but after that died out, the conversation went nowhere quickly.

So there you have it! More great advice. Take it, love it, live it. And if you’re still stuck being single, you’re always welcome here. Home (TWIDY) is where the (broken) heart is!


Ask An Expert – Nic Johnson

Hey TWIDY fans! Time for our second installment of “Ask An Expert”…because we know you still need help.

Nicole Johnson is today’s expert! Nic is a dating and relationship coach at Personal Edge Consulting and also the other half of the dynamic duo that make up Nic and Neely’s Dating Marketplace (Neely’s post can be found here), a talk show covering all things related to dating, love, sex, and relationships. TWIDY asked her five relationship questions and here are her brilliant responses:

1) How has being in relationships changed over the last 10 years?

Over the past 10 years, the evolution of technology (especially dating technology) has caused men and women to be extremely egocentric. Currently, aside from being self absorbed, people in the dating marketplace are programmed for instant gratification and have unrealistic expectations of each other. In my professional opinion, technology has crippled the dating marketplace.

2) What’s the biggest mistake people make in relationships?

One of the biggest mistakes people make in relationships is not knowing how to communicate. Effective communication is the life-blood to all successful relationships and marriages.

3) Who is your favorite celebrity couple right now?

I don’t believe in having a favorite celebrity couple. People should emulate tangible, relatable relationships. That said, aside from my own marriage, my Mother and Father have a perfect 40 year marriage. They are my inspiration!

4) What is important to ensure a strong, healthy relationship?

The ability to give and receive love is the foundation for every strong, healthy relationship. Aside from love, successful relationships are based upon chemistry, compatibility, trust, and honesty.

5) Has Facebook started more relationships than it has ended?

As a Dating and Relationship Coach, I believe Facebook does not enhance romantic relationships. From cyber-cheating to cyber-snooping, Facebook is responsible for the decadence of human relationships. The majority of men and women (especially women) do not have the capacity to control the urge to spy on present or former lovers. Additionally, Facebook has caused people to lose perspective about when to stop sharing information about themselves. A degree of mystery will always be alluring!

Thanks again Nic! Stay tuned next week when we talk with another relationship expert!


Ask An Expert – Neely Steinberg

Neely Steinberg TWIDY fans know all about heart break – it’s time they heard from a relationship expert to guide them through the pain!

Neely Steinberg is one half of the dynamic duo that make up Nic and Neely’s Dating Marketplace, a talk show covering all things related to dating, love, sex, and relationships.  TWIDY asked her five burning relationship questions:

1) How has being in a relationship changed over the last 10 years?
I think social media has changed the name of the game a lot – relationships are harder to start and harder to maintain because of social networking sites. We are also living in a world of instant gratification, and dating ADD is rampant as a result. That’s certainly why something like online dating can be tricky – it’s the paradox of choice. You have so many options at your fingertips. Sometimes it can be hard to focus on just one person, and then you end up with nobody.

I think it can be easy in today’s day and age to fall into that trap of always looking for someone better, someone cuter, someone smarter with whom to be in a relationship, without even doing an honest self-evaluation (how smart are you? how attractive are you? etc.).

Lastly, I think the internet in general has definitely made it easier to stray from relationships. If you’re having problems with your partner, it’s a hell of a lot easier to start chatting it up with someone online instead of focusing on fixing your relationship. So that ADD mentality can extend to relationships as well. But a good thing is that people are waiting a bit longer to settle down, and I think that can be very helpful for self-growth. The divorce rate is a lot lower for couples who marry after 30.

2) What’s the biggest mistake people make in relationships?
Having ridiculously high expectations of one another.  And trying to change your partner.

3) Who is your favorite celebrity couple right now?

Justin Beiber and Selena Gomez. Kidding. Hmmm…I kind of like Reese Witherspoon and her new hubby.  Reese seems like she’s got a good head on her shoulders, and a positive and realistic approach to relationships. I just saw pictures of the two of them in some gossip magazine and they appear to be adorably happy. Then again, like most celebrity couples who look/seem so happy, they could break up a year from now.

Try never to look at other people’s relationships at face value (because then you start comparing, and that is the kiss of death). There’s often stuff going on behind the scenes, and certainly the happy celebrity couples who claim to be sooooo in love and perfect for one another are the biggest offenders of this.

4) What is important to ensure a strong, healthy relationship?

Open and constant communication (about all subjects, no matter how awkward). Putting the other first whenever possible. Don’t get lazy in your relationship (don’t fall into complacency). And knowing you are with someone who allows you to be you.

5) Has Facebook started more relationships than it has ended?

I’m afraid you’ll have to ask Zuckerberg about this one. I’m sure he’s got stats somewhere. :)

Top 10 Things Not to Write on a Royal Wedding Card for William and Kate

Image courtesy of someecards.com

10. Look kids! Big Ben! Parliament!

9. All you need is love….um…brrrbrrbrrbrrbaderrr.

8. Please tell me you didn’t hire Coldplay.

7. Hope this marriage is stronger than your showing at the 2010 World Cup.


5. Whoa whoa whoa…. I was told Prince was going to be here.

4. Way to put the “Ass” in palace!

3. Nice vows, Shakespeare.

2. Bend her like Beckham!

1. Don’t be a drag, just be a queen.


We’re all in this together…

Huge thank you to Nicole Johnson & Neely Steinberg at The Dating Marketplace with Nic and Neely for an awesome show last night on Unregular Radio!

Check out the interview with TWIDY co-founders Chris and Lisa here.